Lucy Mills
considers how life in a fast-paced world influences our relationship with God
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We’re not very good at
waiting. We live in a world of immediacy, a ‘button click’ culture. We’ve come
to expect instant results, quick replies, things that work first time (and we get
increasingly exasperated when they don’t).
We often neglect to give
things time to grow. We judge on short-term, not long-term results. But life
doesn’t always conform to the short-term; it’s too complex, too rich.
We also live in a world of
tick lists, an achievement culture. We’re very into
achieving things – individual tasks and goals as well as broader ideals of
success. Waiting for something to happen chafes against our desire to ‘tick
things off’.
Some are much better at
waiting than others. Some are more impatient, some have more addictive
personalities (loving the feel of a ‘quick fix’), some more prone to
distraction, feeling the gaps of life with ‘stuff’.
And let’s be frank – we’re
human. We only see the finite view. Humanity has always struggled with seeing
beyond itself. Only hindsight occasionally affords us a glimpse of that ‘big
picture’ we so often miss.
How does this affect our relationships with God?
‘Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait
for the Lord.’ Psalm 27:14 (NIV)
A kind of strength is
required for waiting on God. And the less we practise this kind of waiting, the
harder it feels.
We get in the habit of not doing something as much as we do by
doing something – in order to form a new habit we are often breaking an old
one. And breaking habits can feel rather draining.
It’s not just that though,
is it? Pressing pause can make us twitchy. We tend to fill up our spare time,
either with distractions, addictive pursuits or by ‘making the most of the
time’ – i.e. ticking more things off the list.
But what does it mean to
wait for God? For God to act? For God to speak? If we want to hear God, if we
want to nurture an awareness of God, we are going to need to be willing to
spend time in the ‘pauses’ of life. (Let’s face it, we feel guilty about
pausing, don’t we?)
There are kinds of waiting
which are unhelpful. The kind of waiting which believes that God can only work
in our lives when such-and-such has happened, when this or that desire is met.
We neglect to seek God in the present, constantly waiting for a future reality
which has the ideal conditions – more time, more space, more of this, less of
that. That isn’t waiting on God. That’s putting God off until a more
‘convenient time’. And that time never seems to arrive, does it?
Cultivating an attitude of ‘waiting on God’ implies a
kind of expectancy, of eyes
straining to see God, amid the dreary bits of life and through the rawness of
loss, as well as remembering God when it feels as if the sun is shining, at
last.
But often we forget to wait,
we forget to use our moments of pause to watch for the divine interweaving with
our lives in slow but powerful ways. We try and fill each moment with the
trivial – not necessarily ‘bad’ stuff, but mediocre moments, refusing to go
deeper. Too accustomed to clicking a button to alleviate our boredom, we miss
out on the richness the pauses can bring us. I know I do.
As autumn progresses and we
look forward to Advent, perhaps we can think about how to use this time. Not to
fill it with various kinds of busyness, but instead to pursue simplicity; to
find pauses where we can consciously wait; to consider what it means to prepare
for Christ’s coming – not just this season, but every season.
For joy can be found in the waiting, in the nurturing of expectant hope, in watching
slow growth, in seeking life in all its fullness. Waiting can be hard; but
there are treasures to be found – treasures that we would not otherwise see.
In our moments of waiting on
God we practise a kind of stillness, reminding ourselves of why we are here and
why it is important to us. We shed our own expectations of ‘how life should be’
and instead begin to embrace the mystery of God present with us, in all our
smallness.
The person holding a fishing
rod by the river, waiting for a bite. The birdwatcher, sitting in a hide beside
an empty lakeshore.
When at last the reward
comes, when the waiting is over, it is all the more precious.
And we are glad we waited.
Lucy Mills is the author of Forgetful Heart:
Remembering God in a Distracted World,
available now in paperback and eBook.
Alas, you are so right about our resistance to pauses, although surely there are some people who are good at this - the ones who love reflecting and meditating and being quiet. I'm not one of them. I like noise. And things happening. Silence, I find intimidating.
ReplyDeleteYes, learning to deal with silence can take some practice.
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